| So your ex has come back into the picture. He says | | | | she agrees to go to therapy with you so you can |
| he's sorry about the past. He says that he really | | | | both learn to fight fair! It's crucial that you learn |
| loves you. He says that he wants to try again. | | | | healthy communication skills and win/win conflict |
| You feel torn. Your life without him has been | | | | resolution skills if you want your relationship to work |
| challenging and difficult. Money is tight. The kids are | | | | this time. |
| hard to handle all by yourself. But is it really the best | | | | 3. Don't give your ex another chance until you have |
| thing for you? Should you let down your guard and | | | | had a chance to spend time together and see if he |
| let him into your heart one more time? Remember | | | | or she can really keep the new agreements you've |
| that the decision you make today could affect many | | | | made together. Many people say the right words, but |
| years of your future life and your children's future | | | | aren't able to follow through consistently with action |
| lives! | | | | that supports what they said. If you take the time |
| Before you hand him the keys to your heart, please | | | | now to find out if your ex can support his or her |
| consider these crucial points: | | | | words with appropriate action, it could save you |
| 1. Don't give your ex another chance if he or she has | | | | years of pain in the future! |
| been abusive (physically, verbally or emotionally) in | | | | 4. Don't give your ex another chance until you are |
| the past and has not taken responsibility for the | | | | able to laugh together daily. The ability to laugh about |
| abuse. If you have both have taken responsibility for | | | | past or present challenges is a sign that you are |
| your own issues and talked sincerely about what you | | | | working together as a team and that you are |
| will do differently to avoid all types of abuse in the | | | | supporting each other's daily lives. Be sure that |
| future, then you could have a chance of a | | | | natural, spontaneous laughter is an every day part of |
| relationship that works. | | | | your relationship before you choose to let him or her |
| 2. Don't give your ex another chance unless he or | | | | back into your life. |