| How many fights have you had with your partner | | | | in the past. Couples need to work on building their |
| have ended with something along the lines of "I just | | | | relationships. They need to make plans for the future. |
| can't get over the fact that you cheated." You | | | | Relationships, in order to be successful, require a little |
| probably didn't say it that nicely but the point is that | | | | tending. You are going to have to both put a little |
| whenever you don't want to deal with the issue | | | | time, love, and attention into your relationship in order |
| you're really arguing about or you think you can't win | | | | to make it work. |
| the fight you go back and open the old wound that | | | | Here are a few things you can do to work on putting |
| cheating brought into the relationship. | | | | the past behind you and finally looking forward to a |
| This might even be your passive aggressive way or | | | | better future together. |
| turning the dagger a bit by playing on the guilt your | | | | - Spend ten minutes each day talking to and about |
| partner feels about cheating. Cheating isn't an | | | | each other. Don't use this time to discuss the kids, |
| insignificant act. As much as you were hurt by it the | | | | schedules, or work. Talk about how you like the way |
| person who loves you more than anyone else in the | | | | your lover smells or smiles or countless other things. |
| world has to live with the knowledge that he or she | | | | This is time to strengthen your relationship. |
| did something that causes you pain. Every time you | | | | - Work on verbal foreplay to give each other |
| seem to be in pain over it the knife is twisted and | | | | something to look forward to. The goal is to build a |
| digs a little deeper. | | | | sense of anticipation. The time limit is 24 hours. The |
| What does this do to the relationship? It slowly but | | | | goal is to work up as much excitement as possible |
| surely destroys it. The difference between | | | | for each other during that 24-hour window of time. |
| relationships that succeed and those that are | | | | Are you up for the challenge? |
| doomed to fail is that failing relationships dwell on | | | | - Start a weekly date night. This is widely |
| past events and skate on past emotions (good or | | | | recommended by marriage counselors for a reason. |
| bad) while successful relationships are always looking | | | | It works. It allows the two of you to relate as a |
| to the future. | | | | couple again rather than two individuals sharing a |
| You don't want to forget history altogether. You just | | | | space or your roles as parents. This is time for you |
| don't want to relive it all the time. There's no future | | | | to be a couple and fall in love all over again. |