Get Out of Your Way!

In many martial art schools, you'll see a sign that saysslowly, until he could develop better self-control. He
"leave your ego at the door with your shoes". Whatdidn't want to be perceived as a "wimp" in the eyes
this really means is that if you want to be successfulof his classmates and told us that he was going to
in the martial arts, you have to get out of your ownkick "real hard" or not at all. Obviously, he had his
way.own agenda in mind. We were more concerned with
Most martial arts instructors have experienced thosepreventing a serious injury!
students who enter the dojo bent onAll this attitude does is sabotage a martial arts
self-destruction. They're all excited about training, buteducation. Students like this one are too competitive
their behavior is an obstacle to achieving their goals.and try to do too much all at once. They have their
In other words, they become their own worstown preconceived notions on what should be taught
enemy.and how. They want instant results. In the long run,
These students only focus on the physical aspect ofthey either get hurt or burned out. Unfortunately,
the martial arts. They jump into training and are allthey drop out and blame the school for not achieving
about the "results". Success in the martial arts is reallytheir goals.
about the journey. There are mental and spiritualMany adults don't like to be told what to do. As
aspects of training that unfold in the course of theinstructors, we can make suggestions, corrections
physical work. Patience, balance, perseverance,and teach what we know, but in the long run, adults
humility, and focus are just some. It's also abouthave their own agenda. We have to realize that
conquering fear and insecurity and achieving yourthere is only so much we can do. Sometimes, it's a
personal best. It's about calming down the mind andgood idea to step back and let the student's own
trusting an instructor who has hard years ofbehavior be the "teacher".
experience to take you to the next level.So if you want to achieve in the martial arts, be
Recently, an overzealous student who lackedhumble and let the style you have chosen and your
flexibility decided to practice some hard roundhouseinstructor lead you down the path. Many great martial
kicks on the bag. He did this against ourartists have walked the path successfully and so can
recommendation. He needed to work on hisyou if you just get out of your own way.
stretching and we advised him to practice his kicks