| It took me two divorces to learn to fight fair and | | | | order to stay in control of your habits and your |
| not shut down and push love away. I now have a | | | | emotions you must stay present, and be conscious |
| wonderful loving relationship and celebrated my | | | | of your learned behaviors and reactions. |
| seventeenth anniversary on Valentine's Day. Follow | | | | 2. Create a vision of what you want. Once you know |
| tools that took me over forty years to acquire-and | | | | what you want you are empowered to build a |
| recapture your passion, romance, and love. | | | | foundation to support it. |
| What do you do when you feel hurt and your mate | | | | 3. Spend fifteen minutes a day focusing on what you |
| is pushing your buttons? I learned to shut down and | | | | love about your mate. Remember the fun and the |
| go into my cave. John Gray's best seller Men are | | | | good times and develop a habit of releasing the |
| from Mars and Women are from Venus says that | | | | things that bug you. |
| this is the man's role, but I found myself in my cave | | | | 4. Make your own happiness and growth a priority. |
| before I knew I had reacted. This is not a healthy | | | | You cannot be happy with someone else until you |
| way to deal with conflict and it won't get you the | | | | learn to be happy yourself. |
| love you want. These three steps empower you to | | | | 5. Stay current with your emotions. A pot that builds |
| heat up your bedroom and recapture passion, and | | | | up heat will eventually explode. Let the steam off |
| romance. | | | | often and learn to vent your emotions in a gentle |
| 1. Make love a priority and give up your old habits. In | | | | and loving way. |