| The going has gotten tough in your happy home | | | | having. In the end nothing is fixed and there are two |
| more than a time or two. If you've sent more skillets | | | | people walking wounded in the relationship. |
| flying than flowers it's possible that you're a | | | | Keep the Fights on Topic |
| candidate for cheating. Or you might be one of the | | | | How many times have you been fighting about one |
| many men or women in the world who is currently | | | | thing only to have every "sin" you've committed in |
| being cheated on. | | | | the relationship thrown up in the argument. Have you |
| Whether you're the one doing the cheating or the | | | | ever done this to the person you are supposed to |
| one who has had the world ripped out from under | | | | love more than any other person in the world? |
| you by a cheater you might want to take a little | | | | We've all done it at some point. The point is to work |
| time to learn how to fight fairly so that you can | | | | very hard to refrain from doing it in the future. Stick |
| avoid cheating in the future. The benefits of learning | | | | to the topic that is at hand and stop trying to bring |
| the right way to fight can save your marriage even | | | | up old arguments. The time to sort those out is |
| after an affair. | | | | when you aren't as emotionally charged as you are |
| I'm not talking about donning boxing gloves and going | | | | during a fight. |
| 10 rounds though that might be what you feel like | | | | Employ the 10 Second Rule |
| doing after some of your bigger disagreements. It's | | | | Allow 10 seconds to pass before providing any of |
| important to learn how to argue fairly so that your | | | | the arguments that come to mind. This gives you ten |
| arguments can actually be productive rather than | | | | full seconds to really think about whether that is |
| destructive. | | | | what you want to say or not. How many times have |
| But the question remains: how do you fight fair? | | | | you, in the heat of the moment, said something and |
| Learn not to Fight to Win | | | | instantly wished you had not? Giving yourself a 10 |
| There are no winners when you pull out all the stops | | | | second delay gives you that long for to internally edit |
| in order to win the fight. When this happens, no one | | | | the things coming to your mind before they come |
| really wins because the fight becomes about fishing | | | | out of your mouth. |
| and not about solving any problems that you are | | | | |