| Growing up in my quiet, little suburb of New York | | | | true warrior, he is recovering quite well and vows to |
| City, my three children and I were surrounded by | | | | return to his martial arts. When my brother quit, my |
| martial arts equipment, movies and activities. | | | | Dad was only at the beginning of his career, |
| My father, a Wall Street lawyer and his son were | | | | continuing on to second and third degree black belt |
| attending judo lessons. In addition to | | | | while in his late fifties. He is now seventy |
| traditional judo, the class provided a combination of | | | | two. |
| various styles and techniques, an approach popular | | | | My father went to his class twice a week for more |
| these days with the synthesis of different cultures | | | | than twenty years, becoming good friends with the |
| and traditions. | | | | men in his class at the local YMCA. When he |
| Â | | | | recently was forced to stop, he spoke not only |
| Never allowed to attend class myself, I was always | | | | about missing the activity, but missing the community |
| told I was too young. I had to live vicariously | | | | that was formed through the class over the years. |
| through my older brother Daniel. My brother was | | | | To excel in judo or any martial art, one needs |
| never into mainstream sports and in some ways | | | | discipline in the subject. I learned this myself from |
| could have even been considered on the "geeky" | | | | dropping out of the hopkido class I took in college, |
| side, but when it came to the sport of judo, he was | | | | after less than one year (though I still |
| a true success and in my eyes-a star. We | | | | practice). My father certainly had an |
| would often attend these tournaments held in some | | | | abundance of discipline. Every night after working in |
| big gym in a "far away land" such as Washington D.C. | | | | Manhattan, for up to twelve-hour days, he would |
| or Pennsylvania, me, my siblings and my mother, | | | | come home and do his martial arts forms in |
| would all watch him compete, cheering him on as a | | | | our back yard under the cloak of darkness, his mouth |
| family. Judo night for my brother and father | | | | breathing into his hooded sweatshirt in the winter to |
| was a bonding experience. Together they worked | | | | conserve heat. We still joke around the |
| themselves up through the ranks to black belt, when | | | | house about when my neighbor, a twelve year old |
| my brother abruptly stopped, deciding to devote | | | | boy, commented to my brother, "I think I saw a |
| most of his time and energy to academics. | | | | ninja in your back yard last night." |
| Subsequently, his trophies, which I held in such high | | | | Anyone who is interested in pursuing or continuing |
| admiration, began to collect dust in his closet, he was | | | | Â in the martial arts should be inspired by this |
| seventeen when he quit. | | | | story, as my father, an overworked New York City |
| Â My father however, continued on for many | | | | lawyer, found time to work his way up to third |
| years, until recently, when he hurt his leg in a tragic | | | | degree black belt, in a house full of four demanding |
| chainsaw accident, the shock from the wound on his | | | | children, with a very demanding lifestyle. |
| leg caused complications with his digestive track. A | | | | |