| Are you shy? Do you have difficulty coping with | | | | do. Being confident in knowing that change can only |
| people or situations? Then I have good news for | | | | help you grow, and boost your self confidence. |
| you. You do not have to suffer from shyness and | | | | 4. When you are engaged in a one to one |
| you should not feel insecure and fear that you are | | | | conversation, or with a larger group of people, let |
| being judged with every step you take. | | | | them know that you are shy. This prevents them |
| Winning the war with shyness takes practice, but is | | | | from misreading you and they are far more likely to |
| definitely well worth the effort as the result is | | | | invite you into the conversation rather than leave |
| increasing confidence and self esteem. Wake up | | | | you just listening and wishing you could contribute. |
| feeling good about yourself, able to face the world | | | | Many people, me included, find following a |
| with confidence and security and the knowing that | | | | conversation in a noisy room difficult. If you are |
| no feeling of shyness can come in your way of | | | | having difficulty say so and move so that you can |
| achieving your desires. | | | | hear. People respect honesty, and vulnerability and |
| There are hundreds of books written on the subject | | | | you will attract more honest people into your life as a |
| of how beat shyness and gain confidence, but there | | | | result. |
| are a few techniques that anyone can practice. Here | | | | 5. Rejection is a fact of life that everyone |
| are 6 suggestions of techniques on how to | | | | experiences. It is rarely you that is being rejected. If |
| overcome your shyness: | | | | you are rejected, for example if you ask someone |
| 1. Every morning, as soon as you get up, get in front | | | | for a date, remember that everyone has different |
| of a mirror and say out loud "I feel terrific! I feel | | | | likes and dislikes. You may be attracted to one type |
| terrific! I feel terrific!" Repeat this affirmation with | | | | of person and not others. The same applies to other |
| enthusiasm at least ten times everyday until it is | | | | people and you are probably just not their type. That |
| ingrained into your subconscious mind. If you feel a | | | | does not devalue you in any way. Accept this and |
| little self conscious to begin with lock yourself in the | | | | know that you will get over it. Never take it |
| bathroom. The results will amaze you. | | | | personally and keep in mind that if people reject you |
| 2. Feel good about yourself. Look your best. Dress up | | | | it is because of their own likes and dislikes and not |
| more often. This gives you an extra feeling of | | | | because of who you are. You are equally entitled to |
| confidence and self esteem. On its own just knowing | | | | reject others because of your likes and dislikes. |
| that you look good will boost your confidence and | | | | 6. Engage in an activities that make you feel excited |
| reinforce with others that there are things about you | | | | and good about yourself or start a hobby that gives |
| that are worth getting to know. | | | | you a feeling of relaxation. This could be anything |
| 3. Take a risk at least once a day. It is very | | | | from gardening to Tai Chi to Karate. Take some |
| invigorating and conquering fears by taking risks helps | | | | lessons, learn or master a musical instrument or take |
| you grow in confidence and self esteem. Start with | | | | singing lessons. Do something that excites you and |
| small risks and fears and as you overcome them | | | | take a risk. Exploring things that make you feel |
| move onto bigger things. There's nothing you cannot | | | | excited is a great antidote for shyness. |